Introduction
Summary of the book What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid? by Michal Oshman. Before moving forward, let’s briefly explore the core idea of the book. Imagine standing in a quiet room, feeling the gentle hum of your thoughts as you look inward, trying to understand what truly makes your heart come alive. Now picture a distant voice asking, What would you do if you weren’t afraid? Would you take a daring leap toward a long-held dream, reconnect with treasured traditions, or finally allow your inner light to guide your choices? This book invites you on a journey alongside someone who dared to explore these questions and turned to the rich tapestry of Jewish wisdom for answers. Within these pages, you will discover how ancient teachings, timeless values, and soulful practices can transform fear into purpose, anxiety into peaceful assurance, and uncertainty into meaningful steps forward. As you read, you may find echoes of your own struggles, your own longing for clarity and courage. May these lessons inspire you to embrace your inner flame and walk more boldly into your future.
Chapter 1: Venturing Beyond the Wall of Constant Fear: How One Question Can Transform Our Lives and Perspectives Forever.
Imagine walking into a sleek, modern office building filled with intelligent people rushing about with purposeful strides, all under the watchful gaze of bold, attention-grabbing slogans on the walls. Now picture standing in the lobby of Facebook’s London offices, where curious minds gather to shape the future of social connection. There, amidst the innovation and cutting-edge ideas, one simple question stands quietly on the wall: What would you do if you weren’t afraid? At first glance, it may seem like a catchy phrase or a motivational poster, but for some, these words reach deep into their hearts. For a woman named Michal, it felt like someone had opened a secret door inside her mind, shining a light on the shadows that had long haunted her. That day, the question tapped gently on the door of her fears, asking her to imagine a life guided not by anxiety, but by courage and meaningful action.
Before seeing that question, Michal had lived with a constant companion—fear. Fear sometimes appeared as a quiet whisper in the back of her mind, hinting that her children might be harmed during simple activities, like going on a school trip. Other times, fear shouted loudly, warning her that her friends could end up in sudden accidents if they stepped out of their familiar routines. This feeling of uncertainty wrapped around her life like a thick fog. It did not matter if there was real danger or not; her imagination colored every thought with possible disasters. It was not that she wanted to be afraid. On the contrary, she longed for peace of mind and a path to enjoy life’s beauty without constant worrying. Despite trying to reassure herself, fear’s presence was so normal that she barely remembered what it felt like to live freely and boldly.
Yet, something about reading those words on the Facebook wall stirred her spirit. They asked her a brave question: If fear were taken away, what bold action would you dare to take? What dream would you chase? Which hidden part of your personality would you let shine? At first, Michal felt intimidated by how direct and personal the question seemed. She realized she had rarely allowed herself to envision a life free from anxiety’s grip. Her world had been shaped by caution, hesitation, and the persistent belief that something could always go wrong. Now, for the first time in a long while, she wondered if there might be a different way. Perhaps, just maybe, people could learn a strategy—some ancient wisdom or guiding principles—that would help them face fear, acknowledge it, and then move forward anyway.
As Michal began to think more about living without fear, she stumbled onto a treasure trove of knowledge hidden in a place she had long overlooked: the deep well of Jewish wisdom. Although she was Jewish by heritage, she had grown up in a secular household, never truly diving into the rich legacy of Torah teachings or spiritual insights. Now, as an adult struggling with anxiety and unrest, she found herself wondering if these ancient lessons could help. Could texts written centuries ago guide a modern person through challenges like fear and uncertainty? This curiosity nudged her to explore the hidden maps within Jewish spirituality—maps that promised to lead seekers toward purpose, clarity, and peace of mind. With this new spark of interest, Michal stood at the threshold of a transformative journey, poised to discover timeless truths that might finally quiet her fears and illuminate her path forward.
Chapter 2: Unraveling the Layers of Our Past: How Childhood Memories, Unusual Upbringings, and Deep-Seated Anxieties Intertwine.
Like countless people seeking answers to persistent anxiety, Michal had tried to find solutions in traditional psychotherapy. Each time she visited a therapist’s office, a pattern emerged. The professionals encouraged her to revisit childhood memories and analyze her relationship with her parents. They seemed certain that if she dug deep enough into her early years, she would find the key to unlocking her struggles. However, Michal felt a subtle resistance. Yes, her childhood was unusual—her father worked as a forensic pathologist, examining lifeless bodies to uncover truths hidden within them. Her extended family had survived unimaginable horrors, enduring the Holocaust’s devastating scars. Naturally, these experiences imprinted unusual imagery and unsettling stories into her young mind. Yet, despite talking openly with her parents and making peace with these events, she remained convinced that these were not the root causes of her unending anxiety.
The problem was that therapy often aimed a spotlight backward, insisting that if something was wrong now, it must have begun then. But Michal could not shake the feeling that although her past shaped her, it did not define her current fears. She sensed that her worries were not always a direct echo of childhood scenes. They felt more like a cloud looming overhead, connected to something deeper and more complex than a few odd memories. Instead of confirming her suspicions, therapy sessions sometimes left her more puzzled. There must be another explanation, another framework to understand why fear had become her constant companion. Perhaps the answer lay not in dissecting old family dynamics but in exploring a much broader and more spiritual context—a context that focused on meaning, purpose, and a soul-level understanding of life’s challenges.
During this quest for answers, Michal discovered a life-changing direction. She stumbled upon Viktor E. Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning, a book born from unimaginable suffering and resilience. Frankl, a psychiatrist who survived Nazi concentration camps, came to believe that human beings do not suffer solely because of their past traumas. Instead, he argued that we find true healing and courage when we identify our purpose and understand why we are here. His approach, called logotherapy, suggested that uncovering personal meaning could help people rise above their pain. For Michal, this was a revelation. All her life, she had seen therapists focus on old wounds, yet Frankl’s words pointed forward toward meaning and the future. Could it be that anxiety thrives in an environment lacking clear purpose? If so, perhaps ancient spiritual teachings might guide her toward that elusive sense of meaning.
This breakthrough in perspective was reinforced when Michal listened to a powerful talk by a successful Facebook executive, Lady Nicola Mendelsohn. Mendelsohn, a top female leader juggling immense professional responsibilities, also found time to nurture her family, raising four children while devoutly observing the Jewish Sabbath, Shabbat. This balance fascinated Michal. How did someone so accomplished at work still honor a spiritual day of rest and reflection? Soon after, Michal met Professor Kate Miriam Lowenthal, a Jewish academic who encouraged her to try something different—immerse herself in spiritual texts. It was an invitation to step into a new realm of understanding, one that might go beyond therapy’s methods of searching the past. With this encouragement, Michal felt herself turning a new page. The gates of Jewish wisdom stood before her, promising insights that could help unravel her anxieties and guide her toward a calmer, more meaningful life.
Chapter 3: Discovering Ancient Pathways to Purpose: How Jewish Teachings Illuminate Our Inner Flame and Reorient Our Lives.
When Michal first approached the Torah’s teachings, she carried doubts. How could these ancient scriptures, observed and studied over thousands of years, possibly help with a very modern problem like anxiety? Yet, as she delved deeper, she began to see that Jewish wisdom was not just a collection of historical stories or distant commandments. Instead, it offered profound psychological insights and practical tools to help individuals navigate everyday struggles, from professional stress to nagging fears. The Torah’s lessons speak to an unchanging human nature, addressing issues like the search for meaning, the role of community, and the value of self-understanding. For Michal, this was a breath of fresh air. Rather than only looking back to her childhood, Jewish wisdom prompted her to look inward and upward—toward her own soul, her neshama, and her unique purpose in this vast world.
Central to these teachings is the concept of neshama, the divine spark or soul that gives life to each person. According to Jewish tradition, God breathed this spirit into humanity, granting every individual a special essence and a calling that is uniquely theirs. This idea was striking to Michal. If each person carries within them a soul-light, a kind of glowing flame, then discovering that light might help them transcend their fears. However, Jewish wisdom also warns of a barrier called klipah—shells or layers of ego, materialism, and superficial desires that block one’s ability to see their own inner flame. Money, status, and social recognition can overshadow the delicate glow of the soul, causing people to become disconnected from their true purpose. In this view, much of our anxiety might stem from feeling off-track, separated from the tasks we were truly meant to pursue.
To move closer to our authentic purpose, the Torah presents the practice of bittel, a concept that suggests dissolving the ego to recognize that life is not solely about me. Bittel asks a person to become humble enough to understand that they are part of a larger community and world. By reducing self-centered thinking, one can begin to peel back the klipah and reconnect with their neshama. Michal found comfort in this idea. Instead of endlessly worrying about personal failures, losses, or what might go wrong, she could shift her mindset. By focusing on how she might serve others and contribute meaningfully, she could ease the pressure on herself. This shift was not about denying her feelings but about placing them in a healthier, more meaningful context.
Practicing bittel can feel like a gentle but persistent questioning of one’s own habits: Am I dedicating my time and talents to something that truly matters, or am I chasing hollow goals that add to my anxiety? Through this inward reflection, guided by Torah wisdom, Michal learned that when we stop trying to fill every inner gap with selfish pursuits and instead aim to benefit others, we create spiritual space for growth. The flame within us, previously hidden behind ego and fear, can burn brighter. As that flame grows stronger, so too does our sense of direction, making us feel more at peace with life’s uncertainties. And while it may feel challenging at first, this approach offers a path away from endless worry, toward a more stable ground of purpose, understanding, and genuine fulfillment.
Chapter 4: Embracing Imperfection and Moving Forward: How Narrow Bridges and Brokenness Become Stepping Stones to Growth.
Life’s journey can sometimes feel like crossing a very narrow bridge suspended over a deep, shadowy canyon. In a well-known Jewish song, Gesher Tzar Meod, children sing about this shaky bridge, learning that although the path is tight and intimidating, one must move forward without fear. This metaphor resonated deeply with Michal, who had spent years hesitating at the edge, terrified of missteps. Jewish wisdom reminded her that everyone traverses narrow passages at times—moments when the future seems uncertain and the risk of failure feels overwhelming. The question is whether we let fear freeze us in place or gather our courage and inch forward. As Michal reflected on these teachings, she began to realize that mistakes and moments of brokenness are not signs of hopelessness, but invitations to learn and grow.
Even in the high-pressure environment of Facebook, where Michal worked, she discovered a concept that aligned with these ancient teachings—fail harder. This motto encourages employees to see mistakes as necessary steps toward innovation. Instead of punishing herself for every stumble, Michal learned to see failure as an opportunity to reflect and improve. When she took on her first major project at the company, the pressure made her impatient and less considerate than she hoped to be. Although the project succeeded, she knew her approach needed rethinking. Surprisingly, her supervisors congratulated her on experiencing her first failure as a leader. They encouraged her to learn from it and move on to the next challenge, wiser and more understanding. This supportive attitude was refreshingly similar to the Jewish concept of shvira—brokenness. By acknowledging that cracks are part of the journey, we become more complete and mature in the long run.
Jewish spirituality teaches that nothing is more complete than a broken heart, suggesting that moments of emotional pain can open us to deeper truths and strengthen our character. Mishaps and misjudgments are not pleasant experiences, but they can polish us, like rough stones eventually shaped into shining gems. Each setback holds a lesson, and each lesson brings us closer to understanding ourselves. Instead of dreading these imperfections, we can approach them with curiosity. We can ask: What can I learn here? How can I become more patient, compassionate, or resilient because of this difficulty? In doing so, we step away from the panic of fear and move toward a calmer acceptance of life’s complexities.
For Michal, accepting brokenness meant recognizing that fear often arises from the worry of what might happen if she failed. But if failure can be reframed as a teacher, then fear’s power weakens. Instead of feeling trapped, she could feel challenged. Instead of seeing obstacles as proof she should never have tried, she could view them as stepping stones across a stream. Each stone, no matter how slippery, allows her to progress to the other side. This mindset shift allowed Michal to release the tension that had built up inside her for so long. Now, life’s narrow bridges felt less like dangerous crossings and more like invitations to test her courage, learn from the wobbles, and keep walking forward, one determined step at a time.
Chapter 5: The Art of Positive Leadership: Using Tzimtzum, Tikkun, and Mensch-Like Qualities to Empower Others.
Leadership is not reserved for the world’s top executives or legendary generals. Jewish wisdom holds that anyone who genuinely tries to improve the world and inspire others can be a leader. The late Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson famously taught that everyone must be a leader in some way. This does not mean everyone needs a fancy title; rather, it suggests that every human being carries a spark of potential to guide, uplift, and positively influence their surroundings. For Michal, understanding this was crucial. She had long believed leadership required asserting authority, controlling outcomes, and always having the right answers. Now, she realized that true leadership often involves stepping back, creating space, and allowing others to shine. Instead of pushing people around, a good leader listens, encourages, and trusts in their team’s ability to grow.
The Jewish mystical concept of tzimtzum teaches that before creating the world, God contracted or withdrew His infinite presence to make room for something else—creation. This idea can guide leaders today. By practicing their own form of tzimtzum, they learn to step back and allow others to fill the space. In practical terms, this might mean listening more than talking, asking questions rather than dictating answers, and showing empathy instead of exercising raw power. For Michal, applying this principle at work encouraged her to trust her colleagues’ perspectives, giving them confidence and autonomy. By not overshadowing them, she allowed their talents to flourish, ultimately benefiting everyone involved. It was a reminder that true influence grows when leaders share the stage.
Similarly, the concept of tikkun—repairing or improving the world—can shape a leader’s approach. Instead of endlessly criticizing or pointing out faults, a leader practicing tikkun seeks gentle, constructive improvements. Michal applied this to giving feedback, using what she called the 1% feedback tool. Rather than acting as if someone’s entire work was flawed, she approached it with the understanding that most of it (about 99%) was good, and only a small portion (perhaps 1%) needed adjustment. Framing feedback this way reassured her team members that their efforts were valued and that refining their work was a positive, forward-looking step, not a harsh judgment. Interestingly, this approach also worked at home with her children, who learned to appreciate guidance and even ask for that 1% of advice.
At the heart of all these ideas lies the concept of the mensch, a Yiddish word meaning a person of integrity, honor, and kindness. A mensch is someone who, at their core, aims to do the right thing, not for praise or recognition, but because it is the just and caring path. When leaders model mensch-like qualities, they create an environment where trust, respect, and cooperation become natural. People feel safe speaking up, contributing ideas, and admitting mistakes. As Michal embraced these principles, she realized that leadership does not depend solely on clever strategies or iron discipline. Instead, it is built upon humility, empathy, and the desire to help others grow. By becoming a mensch-like leader, she discovered that her own anxieties about leading would fade. After all, when you lead with values and sincerity, you stop being afraid of how others see you and start focusing on how you can serve them.
Chapter 6: Guiding the Next Generation with Values: Embracing Parenting as a Path of Discovery, Not Control.
Parenting can feel like balancing on a tightrope, especially in a world full of expectations, advice columns, and social media comparisons. Many parents feel enormous pressure to do everything right, as if a child’s future happiness depends on flawless parenting techniques. Jewish wisdom offers a different perspective. Instead of aiming for parental perfection, it suggests focusing on instilling values, showing love, and guiding children to discover who they are. This teaching comes from ancient texts like the Torah, where we find the notion that each child has their own way—parents should encourage them to follow it rather than force them down someone else’s path. For Michal, this was a liberating idea. No longer did she need to micromanage every detail of her children’s lives. Instead, she could create an environment where they felt safe exploring their interests, talents, and dreams.
Khinuch, the Hebrew word for education, goes beyond memorizing facts. It involves nurturing a child’s inner compass so they can navigate life’s complexities with grace and moral clarity. One of the most profound gifts a parent can give is to help a child become a mensch—an upright, caring individual who contributes positively to their community. Michal embraced this idea in her own family, encouraging her children to volunteer and give back. She called it giving them Vitamin V—V for values. Through these experiences, her children learned empathy, responsibility, and the importance of looking beyond their own needs. Rather than controlling every aspect of their growth, Michal guided them toward understanding their place in the world. They learned that success is not just about personal achievement, but about how one’s actions improve the lives of others.
Jewish wisdom also highlights the importance of tshuva, often translated as repentance or return. This concept suggests that people can always come back to their true selves, seeking forgiveness and striving to improve. For parents, tshuva can mean understanding that mistakes are part of learning—for both the parent and the child. No one gets it perfect every time. Sometimes parents lose their temper, make poor decisions, or fail to support their kids in the best way. Similarly, children may break rules, push boundaries, or disappoint their parents. But tshuva teaches that these moments can be redeemed through honest reflection, sincere apologies, and heartfelt efforts to do better. Instead of seeing errors as irreversible, families can see them as stepping stones toward stronger bonds and shared understanding.
By embracing these principles, parenting shifts from a battle of wills into a journey of mutual growth. The parents become guides, not tyrants. The children become explorers, not passive followers. Together, they navigate life’s uncertainties, strengthened by values that withstand changing trends and fleeting fads. Michal learned that when her role changed from controlling outcomes to inspiring meaningful lessons, she became less fearful of what the future might hold for her children. She trusted that if they carried strong values—like kindness, humility, and responsibility—they would navigate their own narrow bridges more confidently. These lessons liberated her from anxiety and reminded her that no family path is perfectly straight. Instead, families grow through honest conversations, reflective pauses, and gentle corrections along the way. Parenting, then, becomes another aspect of life where fear can give way to love, trust, and hope.
Chapter 7: Returning to Our Core Essence: Using Ancient Wisdom to Rediscover Meaning, Overcome Fear, and Embrace Our True Purpose.
Throughout her journey, Michal discovered that many of the anxieties haunting her life were rooted in a sense of lost purpose. By exploring Jewish teachings, she realized that anxiety often thrives when people feel disconnected from their inner selves—their neshama—and from their genuine reasons for being here. Jewish wisdom provides gentle reminders to look beyond our immediate worries, beyond material success and fleeting desires, and reconnect with what truly matters. This can mean revisiting core values, acknowledging our responsibilities to one another, and learning to see each challenge as an opportunity for growth. As Michal allowed these insights to guide her thoughts, she found that fear loosened its grip. The unknown future no longer felt like a horrifying mystery, but rather an unfolding story, in which each chapter brought new wisdom.
Central to this transformation is the willingness to examine oneself honestly. Tshuva, as discussed, invites people to return to their essence, to mend broken relationships, and to refine their character. Viewed this way, life is a cycle of continuous improvement. Instead of beating herself up for moments of doubt or failure, Michal learned to see them as signals that she needed to readjust, to refocus on her deeper calling. Whether she was managing her home, guiding her children, or leading her team at work, this principle applied equally. The Jewish tradition gave her a more stable lens through which to understand her fears. Rather than random, paralyzing forces, these fears became teachers, helping her identify where she could grow stronger and more aligned with her purpose.
This inner transformation can also ripple outward, inspiring others to find their meaning. As Michal integrated these principles into her everyday life, her relationships began to shift. Colleagues noticed her calmer demeanor, her supportive feedback, and her willingness to give them room to excel. Her children sensed her trust and learned the value of exploring their interests. Friends and family saw that her laughter came more easily now, unburdened by constant worry. Through her actions, Michal showed that ancient wisdom is not dusty or outdated. Instead, it is a timeless guide to living fully, bravely, and purposefully in the modern age. She could see that fear loses much of its power when people anchor themselves in eternal values and community-focused thinking.
In the end, the question that once startled Michal in the Facebook office—What would you do if you weren’t afraid?—no longer felt like a challenge directed at her insecurities. It felt more like a gentle nudge to reconnect with her soul’s flame. She discovered that by returning to her roots, embracing meaningful traditions, and applying spiritual insights to her daily life, she could reshape her relationship with fear. Fear might still be present sometimes, but it no longer stood as a formidable wall blocking her path. Instead, it became a reminder to seek deeper meaning, practice humility, and remain open to growth. With these lessons, Michal began moving forward not just bravely, but joyfully, confident that each step toward understanding her purpose brought new light into her life and the lives of those around her.
All about the Book
Discover powerful insights on overcoming fear and embracing courage in Michal Oshman’s transformative guide. Unlock your true potential and live authentically with actionable strategies for fearless decision-making and personal growth.
Michal Oshman is a renowned author and motivational speaker, inspiring readers worldwide to embrace empowerment and courage through her personal experiences and insightful guidance.
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